Emptiness that Awakens Part IV: Keep it simple. Just Be.

Still not sure? 


I know the idea of “awakening” can sound daunting, difficult or serious (or perhaps too heady for some of you), but it doesn’t have to be!  (And really, we know life itself throws that all in for us.)  

When you are true to yourself, your transform the world around you through your presence. 

When you are true to yourself, your transform the world around you through your presence. 

Keep it simple.

Awakening is a process that starts with simple awareness, self-observation, of your circumstances, relationships, actions, words, thoughts, beliefs.  Ok, and that requires a willingness to adopt some real look-in-the-fucking-mirror personal responsibility.

And then, rather than just going through the motions, pause.  Ask yourself, "what or how would I like to be experiencing life instead?”  Where are you unsatisfied, stressed out or suffering?  What do you love and love to do?  What is really important to you?  What makes you feel at ease and alive?  

You can think of it as self-correcting (if awakening isn’t your jam at this point). 

Awakening opens you up to a life of curiosity, possibility, personal power, creativity, passion, beauty and, best of all, love.  Every step of the way opens you up to more and more freedom

And the exciting thing is that this is happening all over the world amongst a broad spectrum of people from all walks of life. 

With the vast resources and information that we have access to, we simply owe it to ourselves and future generations to wake up

Just be.

One of the biggest challenges that comes along with this path is that not everyone is on it.  The reality is that it’s just not that time in human history yet.  

This is an extremely personal journey, and everyone is in a different place in their evolution. 

In the process of awakening, we sometimes fight the need to tell everyone about it, how amazing it is, how good we feel, how much we are remembering about the truth of who we are and how desperately the planet needs us all to change... Truth is this can get exhausting and make you question yourself. 

And so my invitation is two-fold: 

1. Expand your community of friends. Actively find your people.

I realize that you may be changing faster than the people around you, even the ones you love.  Have compassion for them.  Watch your need to explain every detail of your transformation to others with the goal that they will “get you.”  The truth is, they may never get you.  And, it’s not their job to get you or to change themselves.  It’s your job to accept them for who they are, releasing any expectation around how they should be or think. 

Can you exist in your newfound truth and freedom and still hold them in a loving place?  Can you see and cherish the beauty of who they are, exactly as they are?  Can you just be and find your center and pleasure in the moment? 

The truth is that you do need to find people you can relate to on this journey.  

You need to surround yourself with a community of men or women who are at the next level. 

Those people will be extremely important to you feeling connected and understood.  They will play an vital role in helping you expand your ability to feel good and succeed in living your purpose.  Those friends and mentors are essential and deeply meaningful.  So do what you need to “fill your cup” with friends who want to talk about life, spirituality, awakening.  Just don’t forget to be present with and accepting of those who are not. 

2. Hold a part of your transformation sacred

Sacredness implies high value, reverence and respect.  In this way, you can feel that a part of your awakening is special, special enough not to want to cheapen it by broadcasting it where it’s not going to be valued or understood.  Many of us do feel it is our duty to spread this message and play our part in shifting the consciousness of the planet.  However, there is something beautiful in reserving a part of your practice, a ritual perhaps, that is just for you and spirit.  Be aware of the ego's need for validation.  Be aware of the ego's need to assign meaning or an immediate intellectual interpretation to a feeling, synchronicity or other experiences.  By holding your evolution as sacred, you give it space, you don't ignore nor do you smother it.  You begin to feel a quiet sense of being in awe of yourself as a part of the greater forces at work. 

And so to close, I bow to you, in all your infinite potential, in honor of the spark of life that rests within you.  Keep up the good work.  The world needs you to believe in you. 

With wild love,

Kiki Federico 

Inspired by Marianne Williamson’s Enchanted Love Workshop.

Emptiness that Awakens Part III: Entering space. Filling up. Waking up.

Continued from Part II...


Thankfully some of us are gifted with people or situations in life that force us to contemplate, "there has got to be something more to life than this."  Sometimes things just have to be that bad before we will start to really pay attention

Some of us just get it that we can choose a fulfilling, peaceful, joyful life. 

Entering space.  Filling up.  Waking up. 

So you start the search, seeking what that life looks and feels like.  What is it to be in the “more to life?"

Naturally, you start with what is not working, who we are not.  The more you strip away, the closer you get to empty. 

"Who am I without my _____ ?" (insert habit, persona, title, name here) 

Then, we enter space.


This is a process of peeling away the layers, digging deeper to reveal what’s at the core of who you are.  This is a personal quest to arrive at some answer, some clarity, strength, joy, peace, aliveness that was once missing, so that you may discover what will truly make you satisfied.  Who am I truly?  Why the hell am I even here? 

This is awakening - to stop sleepwalking through life and get to the truth, of which there is only one, yours. 

And then, you begin to (you desire to) fill yourself up from the inside with truth, not junk (junk food, reality TV, plastic, trends, sugar, buzz, small talk, keeping up appearances, shiny shiny, don’t offend anyone, Wal-mart, politics, sugar, Facebook).  

Something miraculous happens. 

Enter spirit. 

You begin to see through the bullshit.  You learn to tell the difference between what you desire, what is meaningful and what you’ve been told to care about.  You realize that practically none of the “learning” you did in school was designed to help you answer the question, "who am I?" but rather, “how do I get a good job?”  You realize that you’ve been gearing up to enter the system, play the game of capitalism, consumerism, work, spend, money, burnout, escape, chase, strive, compare, not enough, oh, and only put the good stuff online.  

You learn to think & feel for yourself.  You remember that you are more than just flesh and blood and thoughts.  You learn that you don’t control the vast majority of the process occurring in your body and that a gut feeling is a real, deep form of intelligence.  You finally get it - "I'm a fucking miracle of creation!" (seriously!) 

You start to get clear on who you are and what you really want.  You learn that being true to yourself is the greatest gift to yourself (and the world), and it’s more important than anyone else’s approval or even their love

You appreciate the clarity.  You start respecting, appreciating, caring for and believing in yourself, because you want to. 

You learn what is meaningful and what is just a distraction or a temporary thrill that you will be recovering from for the next few days.  You begin to create relationships and an environment that reflects that truth of "who am I really?” and the beauty in this world.  You surround yourself with people, things, work, experiences that have meaning

The truth (for me) is that awakening is where it's at!  (Real talk.)

You become strikingly aware of your ability choose your experience in any and every moment. 

You start listening to and trusting your intuition. 

Your relationships deepen, expand and become more fulfilling. 

You look and feel better, and your health improves on all levels. 

You become receptive and stronger. 

You feel your personal power in every moment. 

Your sex life gets better (especially women). 

You stop apologizing for who you are and worrying about impressing people or making sure everyone likes you. 

You do things you care about and stop wasting time doing things you "should" or just because the people around you are. 

You face your fears and face way less disappointment. 

You get closer to your purpose and know why you wake up everyday. 

You access and express your innate creativity.

You trust yourself and your ability to create the life you truly desire. 

You experience more beauty, pleasure and fun! 

So who’s in?! 

Still not sure?  Stay tuned for Part IV tomorrow...

With wild love, 

Kiki Federico

Emptiness that Awakens Part I: Dwell in the Emptiness

I find myself studying and returning to emptiness as a way to then refill myself with the the fullness of who I truly am and that feeling of being joyfully alive...

You see, this is the paradox of “emptying out” our ideas of who we think we our and our mind’s attachment to it.  This emptiness is the very thing that opens us up to the fullness of life in every moment and the truth of who we really are.