emptiness

Emptiness that Awakens Part III: Entering space. Filling up. Waking up.

Continued from Part II...

 

Thankfully some of us are gifted with people or situations in life that force us to contemplate, "there has got to be something more to life than this."  Sometimes things just have to be that bad before we will start to really pay attention

Some of us just get it that we can choose a fulfilling, peaceful, joyful life. 


Entering space.  Filling up.  Waking up. 

So you start the search, seeking what that life looks and feels like.  What is it to be in the “more to life?"


Naturally, you start with what is not working, who we are not.  The more you strip away, the closer you get to empty. 

"Who am I without my _____ ?" (insert habit, persona, title, name here) 


Then, we enter space.

Spaciousness


This is a process of peeling away the layers, digging deeper to reveal what’s at the core of who you are.  This is a personal quest to arrive at some answer, some clarity, strength, joy, peace, aliveness that was once missing, so that you may discover what will truly make you satisfied.  Who am I truly?  Why the hell am I even here? 


This is awakening - to stop sleepwalking through life and get to the truth, of which there is only one, yours. 


And then, you begin to (you desire to) fill yourself up from the inside with truth, not junk (junk food, reality TV, plastic, trends, sugar, buzz, small talk, keeping up appearances, shiny shiny, don’t offend anyone, Wal-mart, politics, sugar, Facebook).  


Something miraculous happens. 

Enter spirit. 


You begin to see through the bullshit.  You learn to tell the difference between what you desire, what is meaningful and what you’ve been told to care about.  You realize that practically none of the “learning” you did in school was designed to help you answer the question, "who am I?" but rather, “how do I get a good job?”  You realize that you’ve been gearing up to enter the system, play the game of capitalism, consumerism, work, spend, money, burnout, escape, chase, strive, compare, not enough, oh, and only put the good stuff online.  


You learn to think & feel for yourself.  You remember that you are more than just flesh and blood and thoughts.  You learn that you don’t control the vast majority of the process occurring in your body and that a gut feeling is a real, deep form of intelligence.  You finally get it - "I'm a fucking miracle of creation!" (seriously!) 

You start to get clear on who you are and what you really want.  You learn that being true to yourself is the greatest gift to yourself (and the world), and it’s more important than anyone else’s approval or even their love


You appreciate the clarity.  You start respecting, appreciating, caring for and believing in yourself, because you want to. 


You learn what is meaningful and what is just a distraction or a temporary thrill that you will be recovering from for the next few days.  You begin to create relationships and an environment that reflects that truth of "who am I really?” and the beauty in this world.  You surround yourself with people, things, work, experiences that have meaning


The truth (for me) is that awakening is where it's at!  (Real talk.)

You become strikingly aware of your ability choose your experience in any and every moment. 

You start listening to and trusting your intuition. 

Your relationships deepen, expand and become more fulfilling. 

You look and feel better, and your health improves on all levels. 

You become receptive and stronger. 

You feel your personal power in every moment. 

Your sex life gets better (especially women). 

You stop apologizing for who you are and worrying about impressing people or making sure everyone likes you. 

You do things you care about and stop wasting time doing things you "should" or just because the people around you are. 

You face your fears and face way less disappointment. 

You get closer to your purpose and know why you wake up everyday. 

You access and express your innate creativity.

You trust yourself and your ability to create the life you truly desire. 

You experience more beauty, pleasure and fun! 


So who’s in?! 

Still not sure?  Stay tuned for Part IV tomorrow...


With wild love, 

Kiki Federico

Emptiness that Awakens Part II: It's up to you.

It’s up to you.

What is happening within you will always be the greatest determining factor in your experience of life.  Why is it then that we are so focused on what’s going on around us?  We act as if what’s out there holds the keys to all our deepest desires. 

The rising sun, the dawning of each new day, is a powerful time of new beginnings and possibilites.  It reminds us of our freedom. 

The rising sun, the dawning of each new day, is a powerful time of new beginnings and possibilites.  It reminds us of our freedom. 

In some ways, we've been tricked for generations, developing deep societal “norms” and pathways to “success” that shape who we think we are and how we should act.  But the model is flawed.  It’s founded on others approving of you, falling in line, following trends, not questioning the status quo, consumerism, capitalism.  Keep watching the screen. Keep buying stuff.  Keep working. 

In other ways, we trick ourselves because we know that peace, happiness and fulfillment don’t come with a tag on it (physical or virtual). 

But isn’t doing the work to reframe the lens through which we see the world hard? 

Is that the hold up?!  Too hard? Too much time? (Reality check - this life’s work - so forget about time.)

First, it takes willingness.  And it takes effort, which is why those who embark on the path of self-discovery usually come from a place of suffering, darkness or some other situation forcing them to look in the mirror and make a change, at least for their own benefit.  Whether it’s a breakup, losing someone they love, a soul-sucking job, injury or addiction, the lucky ones take the chance to snap out of it

A beautiful side effect of refining your inner world is gaining the capacity to see such “terrible” events as gifts, or in the case of the unexpected, gift bombs

Damn.  You mean I have something to learn from this shitty situation? YEP!  Welcome to the New World Order folks! 

It’s up to you to get what you want and need out of life. 

Or, you can choose to stay in the "woe is me, people just don’t get me or like me, I hate my body, things would be better if only” mentality. 

Slave to the ego. Riding the struggle bus. 

Now, don’t get me wrong.  The struggle is real, whether you get excited about evolving as a human or not.  But the path of embracing that you have a spirit provides a whole hell of a lot of relief, coping skills and good feelings along the way.  It reminds you of your true nature, that part of you that exists (and thrives for that matter) outside the realm of things that "happen to" you and daily drama or your to-do list. 

I also get that the existing systems at work know damn well just how suckered by immediate gratification we are.  We are human after all.  There is great power in preoccupation, comfort and chemically-engineered pleasure.  It keeps you from asking too many questions, keeps you striving, purchasing and clicking away to keep up or chase a fleeting feeling

But what’s the end game in that scenario? 

A lifetime of hours worked, TV shows watched, credit card debt, processed foods eaten, health problems and relationship drama…? 

But I posted a hell of a lot of selfies and pictures of food!  See?  Everyone!? I made it!  Right?! But... wait... don’t post that picture of me. I look fat...    Hmm. 

Thankfully some of us are gifted with people or situations in life that force us to contemplate, "there has got to be something more to life than this."  Sometimes things just have to be that bad before we will start to really pay attention

And then, some of us just get it that we can choose a fulfilling, peaceful, joyful life. 

YOU have to choose.  And you can.  Right now.  This is what they talk about when they say that "the power lies in the present moment."


With wild love, 

Kiki 


Stay tuned for part 3! 


Emptiness that Awakens Part I: Dwell in the Emptiness

I find myself studying and returning to emptiness as a way to then refill myself with the the fullness of who I truly am and that feeling of being joyfully alive...

You see, this is the paradox of “emptying out” our ideas of who we think we our and our mind’s attachment to it.  This emptiness is the very thing that opens us up to the fullness of life in every moment and the truth of who we really are.