Ritual

You Need to Dance... With Me

Your connection to your body is vital.  It is a gateway -  to your intuition, your clarity and to your soul’s desires.  Your female body is meant to feel and be expressed, not just for fun, but because it is a source of intelligence and creativity.  Move first.  Then meditate.  Then act. 

 

It’s no wonder that I have started to build a community of women like you who are also longing for a place to reconnect to their bodies and one another - and thus their divine feminine energy (and power).  I have dreamt of creating a sacred space where you can come to feel truly ALIVE and FREE in an uplifting community of women.  

And now it's here!  Both evenings so far have SOLD OUT

Why?  Because too many of you feel unfulfilled, unmotivated or uncomfortable in your jeans, but it’s not just vanity.  You want to feel healthier, clear and more confident.  You intuitively know that your power lies in your body - not in how physically perfect it is, but in you relationship to it’s wisdom, it’s energy.  And a the core, YOU WANT YOUR SPARKLE BACK.  

 

You’ve given a lot of yourself to other people and your job.  Maybe you’ve lost yourself in a sea of “should,” stress or other people’s Instagram feeds. 

 

This is why you need to dance with me. 

 

You need this. I need this.  We all need this.  In fact, most of you are craving this.

 

  • Life is full of junk - junk food, gossip, advertising...  You need a place to release what you absorb, a place to and let go of your thoughts, your need to please others and get it right. 
  • You were made to move.  It just feels good.  And when you feel good, better yet, alive, you have access to, and attract, similar energy.  
  • You are seeking a community of like-minded women who embrace you as you are and support you in who you are becoming. 

 

But there’s a backstory… 

 

When I was “killing it” doing 80-hour weeks, my weekend escape was seeing live music (lots of live music).  On the dance floor, something would happen.  I did’t have to talk, and I would close my eyes.  Like a wave coming over me, I would forget all of the worries and confusion I had about my work and who I was supposed to be.  It felt like I wasn’t in control. (I didn’t want to be.)  The music would enter into my body and move something through me.  I wasn’t thinking or trying to make it happen.  In those moments, I didn’t care how I looked because I felt so good. 

 

In a word, I felt FREEDOM.  In short bursts on the dance floor, with electric guitars, bass, drums vibrating through my being, I was being danced.  This feeling of aliveness was the thing that I clung to, dreamt of, the thing that reminded me of what life could be like - how good I could feel.  When I was dancing, I felt stripped down to the essence of who I am - sensual, wild, expressive and full of love.  

 

Now, I know firsthand the power of a woman who feels not just comfortable, but truly liberated in her body.  I know what happens when you own your body, your energy, your physical presence.  You will carry yourself with more strength.  You will exude an intangible, magnetic quality.  You will speak more confidently in meetings.  You will be more in tune with what you really want.  You will be more creative.  The right people and opportunities will appear.

 

Despite the plethora of movement classes in SF, I know that you crave more - community, connection and intention.  And I am here to bring it to you with movement + music + ritual.  If you are ready to love your body, elevate your vibe and find your tribe, please join me. 

 

The next class will be on Sunday 1/24, 7:30 pm at the beautiful studio at The Center SF.   Get your tickets here - We will sell out!  

 

Wild grace, 

Kiki xx

 

Are you hiding your true self? Are you afraid to be seen?

Hey girls,

I have a confession, and I think you might be able to relate.  I recently slipped back into thinking "I need to get it right.  I need this to work.  I need to be on top of my game.  I need to be ____ for them to like me."  (Insert highly aspirational or unattainable quality.)

I've been interviewing and working with some (bad ass) professional women who I consider to be leaders or emerging leaders.  And I picked up on something... a struggle around how others perceive them.  "Am I smart enough? Too aggressive? Not aggressive enough? Qualified enough? Am I too much?... What do they think of me?" 

I realized that I had started to buy back into the game of "enough-ness" and projecting an image of who I thought I needed to be... for YOU to like me. 

 

I'd like to share a personal story... 

Ever since I was a young girl, I was very self-aware.  I became very adept at observing the people around me and shifting my demeanor, words and behavior to "fit in."  (Which, according to Brene Brown is the #1 barrier to feeling a true sense of belonging.)

I was also a pretty smart kid who learned that pushing myself, getting all A's and putting on a face full of makeup would get me a lot of external validation... especially from powerful men.   

Eventually I began to feel crushed under the pressure I had put on myself - pressure to be the "good girl," to make the grades, make the sales, pressure to look pretty and act like I knew it all, pressure show no signs weakness (or emotions), pressure to be "cool" and social, go along with the "group" and not cause trouble in the relationship...

Pressure to be who I thought I needed to be in order to be liked and get ahead... 

Pressure to be perfect and have it together all the time. 

I was afraid.  I was afraid to fail or seem weak, afraid of being poor and lonely and thought, "if they really knew me they wouldn't like me."

I didn't feel safe to be myself.  

So I hid.  I hid behind the masks of makeup and "strong," "independent," my job title, relationships and "I'm fine" to name a few. 

Can you relate? 

But here's the thing... Underneath it all, a part of me knew this was bull shit.  I had always questioned authority and the status quo.  I was always able to sense the pain beneath the masks of others.  I was able to sense that others were faking it too.  That observant quality that helped me fit in was the same part of me that knew I was just playing the game.  I thought I had to in order to survive!  But there was another part of me that I could feel was dying inside, and she just wanted to be herself and to be loved.  

She knew she was beautiful and enough just as she was without changing a thing. 

She wanted to be seen and heard and express herself! 

For those of us who have always questioned the status quo, feel trapped by the rules or want to change things while we are here, following a prescribed formula or career path doesn't work for us.  

Fitting in doesn't work for us. 

WE are the wild hearts and free spirits.  

We cannot be contained by systems and structures and ways of doing things that keep us hidden and small. 

We can no longer live in FEAR of what others will think of us.  Our lives depend on it.  Our souls depend on it.  Our true "success" depends on it.  WE are the ones we have been waiting for.

 

So how did I regain my footing?...

I spent last week in Sonoma celebrating the end of a group mastermind program with twelve amazing women and then spent some time alone in a cottage on a farm to reconnect to the TRUTH of who I am.  

Through the power of sisterhood, I was able to see the ways in which these old pressures to BE who I thought I needed to be... for THEM to like me, for YOU to like me... had been trying to run the show. 

I'm not willing to let the "idea" of who I need to be dictate how I show up in the world.  That is not why I am here.  

I quickly saw how this was not serving my desire to honor and express the truth of who I am to give women permission to do the same.

 

So I headed to the beach and performed a self-made releasing ritual to commence the occasion (see the video below).  

I released the "need to be" and any expectations about what my business "should" look like.  I honored and payed respect to how these subconscious thoughts had been here to protect me and keep me safe.  I threw them into the ocean and moved them through my body with a dance as an offering back to the Earth for her to compost. 

By reconnecting with my sisters and my true essence, I was once again reminded of my wildness, my instinctual nature, my desire to feel free and be a voice for what is REAL...  

Because I believe that LIBERATED WOMEN are the LEADERS of the future.  

And self-expression is one of the highest forms of self-love. 

By facing these beliefs head-on with compassion rather than judgement, I was able to find gratitude for them.  By intentionally releasing them and marking the occasion with a ritual (and this blog post), I was able to take action to move forward gracefully. 

 

So I ask you... Are you hiding your true self?  Are you afraid to be seen?  Are you staying small or quiet?  

Are you buying a story that you are not 'enough' as you are?  Are you trying to look or be how you think you need to be to get ahead and be liked?  

Are you ready to reclaim your true feminine beauty and power to transform your life? Are you ready to fall more deeply in love with yourself? 

 

Then I invite you to send me an email to kiki@kikifed.com with even just a few words and tell me what is weighing in your heart at the moment.   

I cannot wait to hear from you.

And if you haven't yet, then please join me in community. 

 

With BIG, WILD, graceful love,

Kiki